Did You Sleep With My Son?!?

WHAT!? Why are you asking me this?!?!?

Published on September 11, 2004 By strawberrysNsunrise In Blogging

I had a conversation with my FMIL.

FMIL: "Tara, Are you a virgin?"
ME "Um, why do you want to know?"
FMIL "Because my son doesn't deserve to be marrying a slut."
ME "Well, your son, may or may not be a virgin himself. Believe it or not Mrs. Bayton, Charlie doesn't tell you everything."
FMIL "Have you slept with my son, Tara?"
ME "Oh my God! Where do you get off asking me whether or not I've slept with your 26 year old son?!?"
FMIL "He is my son. I brought him into this world. I can ask any question I want to ask about him."
ME "Bull shit. You want to know something like that, you ask Charlie. Not me."
FMIL "I already did. He said to ask you."
ME "What?!?"

URGH! Where does she get off asking that?!?? Being married to Charlie, better not be like being married to Charlie's mom! If it is, then our forever, is going to feel like hell.

Anyone have any ideas on how to cope with a FMIL like mine??? HELP!

Comments

Gideon MacLeish

on Sep 11, 2004

Wow!

I would suggest you talk with your fiance about some premarital counseling. If he's not up for it, you may want to go yourself.

Even if your husband is a saint, his mother will be a part of life as long as you're married. It sounds as if she has some very strong emotional problems, and those emotional problems may lead to trouble down the road between you and your husband if he's not willing to let go. If he told his mother to "ask you", that's a pretty bad warning sign, in my opinion. It sounds as if he is unable to stand up to his mother, and he needs to do that from the outset, or she will control your relationship. And since she's already deemed you "not good enough", it's not likely to be even remotely acceptable for you.

Chin up, though, and here's hoping that the problems can be resolved fairly easily.

strawberrysNsunrise

on Sep 11, 2004

Chin up, though, and here's hoping that the problems can be resolved fairly easily.

Thanks. What you said makes a ton of sense. Charlie is here and I had him read what you said and he agreed that maybe we should go to premarital counseling, or at least talk it over, and maybe talk to his mom. Once again, thanks

Capi Crimini

on Sep 12, 2004

Kill Her... I'll do it for some $$$,$$$.00 lol... I'd confront him tell him your problem with his mother still having aprobn strings attached. If he's not willing to change. break it off. better to do this now. then to wait ten years. tell him if he ever grow up and your still single you can start over...

Capi Crimini

on Sep 12, 2004

I'm not a shrink. Make the choice you feel is right.

The Crusaders

on Sep 12, 2004

I think Gideon pretty much said it well enough there...

strawberrysNsunrise

on Sep 12, 2004

Thanks for you help everyone! Charlie and I have discussed it. He agrees she's over protective.

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